Some people just want a fight.
You can feed into their logic to no end, you can answer all their questions, you can be nice as pie (pizza pie!), but at the end of the day they just want to fight.
They probably don’t know it, but they do. They crave confrontation. They crave the argument. They really crave an argument with themselves. When you point the finger at everyone else because everyone else is the asshole, well… I’m pretty sure you can figure it out.
You can compliment their fashion but after they say “Thanks” they’re going to follow up with something backhanded. It may not be mean or really even all that logically grounded, but they’re going to make sure that you know they don’t trust you and even if they did… well… you’re a BidenTrumpClintonPolitics supporter! RAAAAAAH! Yer teh enemeeeeeh! I’m right, you’re wrong. Blah blah blah.
As I’ve returned to the door-to-door sales life (siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh) I’ve started to meet the hermits that live lonely lives. Some I feel terrible for (some poor guy has lived in the same room since 1962, how is it even possible?), some I still pity but know that they can still change. If it’s just a personality issue, then toss back some “plant medicine” and let your ego start to heal again.
The real question is simple – “Who hurt you?”
I will say, since I’ve returned with a much brighter perspective on people and how we’re all connected, it’s much easier to shrug off someone’s misery. It’s also a lot more fun to put a smile on someone’s face that may have been having a rough day. Or maybe it was just a boring day, uneventful, and coming to their door with a proposition and a smile was the highlight. I’m fine with that. Sometimes we can define “success” just by having an interesting conversation and getting to know someone a little bit.
Today was all around successful to me, but it’s really how I define it that made it successful. There’s the perspective that my car drank all my gas as I drove all over God’s creation, there’s the perspective that I didn’t make any money today while I spent way too much, there’s the perspective that I didn’t create any new business for myself… or I could look at it all differently…
I spent my day meeting new people, walking around in the sunshine for a couple hours, learning about new neighborhoods and towns that I had never been to, gaining an even greater understanding of the people that make up New England, that I put some smiles on some faces and it had a butterfly effect to someone they know.
It’s all about perspective. I got my workout in, I was blessed enough to have dinner taken care of by the person I treasure on this planet most. I’m a very lucky human being and although I may be in a tougher spot than I’m used to… there’s more positives to take away than anything else. Including the fact that this adversity will serve me well in the future. It’s just another opportunity to learn, that’s all.
I’m a lucky sonovabitch. I’m blessed. I’m grateful for every moment I have on this Earth, regardless of what it brings. It’s all a chance to learn and grow. Thank you to everyone around me – friends, family, doubters, haters, whatever. You all bring something to the table and on the table is plenty of flavors for everyone.